Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Better or Bitter: After The Love Is Gone...

Just a few years ago, Erykah Badu had a chart topping series of songs that trumpeted an anthem of strength and rebirth to a new generation of women.  With the torch song of the era, Badu gave women the strength to walk away from emotionally crippling relationships as she belted out lyrics aimed at all the Tyrone-like characters within the sound of her voice.  She followed that up with a song meant to heal the bruised psyche of her female (and attentive male) fans as she gave thousands - or perhaps millions - the ability to see themselves in the lyrics of Bag Lady.

So, even after a musical revolution that garnered millions in record sales, I look around at the single women and broken relationships that still fail to heed her call to revelation and rebirth and I shake my head in wonderment.  Why are so many people strong enough to dismiss a mate from their lives; yet, never divorce themselves from the  their negative circumstance?

If you are strong enough to end a relationship, you should also find the strength needed to heal the cavity that remains in your life after its demise.  Think about it:  Are you better or bitter as a result of the  the past relationships in your life?  If you are better, I applaud you.  If you are bitter, then I only suggest that you find the strength to put down the baggage that may be holding you back from finding something beautiful in your life that could - potentially - complete you.

Truthfully, it may not be as simple as it sounds.  However; I have always been a strong believer in the fact that we all have the lives we want to lead.  If not, then we also have the ability to change it - by simply choosing to make different decisions concerning the adversities in our lives...

But, then again, this is just ONE Man's Opinion... What is yours?

3 comments:

  1. We simply hold on to familiar demons. The demons have to be wrestled with and let go. Maya Angelou said .. It is easier to grow older than it is to grow up. Many do not know themselves and should have never been in a relationship from the start. You have to know what a relationship is. We have been socialized to see the exterior and work from there instead of building the interior and letting that foundation guide us. I am certainly not perfect, but a lot of people need to sit down somewhere and do or have other people sit them down and make them do inner cultivation so the relationship can be cultivated in a positive way.

    WMEADOWS

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    1. Thank you for echoing the beautiful words of Maya Angelo in your response. Indeed, the reference is a valid point and I truly believe that when two people have the same expected outcome and open communication, relationships become more stabilized. We must allow for past experiences to be discussed and compensated for while affirming that we will both do our best to avoid similar situations. But, we must also make room for allowances and circumstance. The operative word you use is "cultivate" and I must agree. All relationships must be groomed, treasured, and allowed to blossom in their own time.

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  2. What won't kill you will only make you stronger. Every lesson in life has a reason behind it, learn from your lessons and build on them. Never look or go back, always move forward.

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