Long ago, I noticed that people come
into your life for either a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I tried to relay this information to a friend
through writing; however, the message seem
muddled by the use of words. So, to make things
much easier to digest, I simply stated, “people are either one of three things:
to help, to hinder, or to serve as a cause for hesitation.” This, she seemed to get…
The most obvious people to be identified are those who have come into your life to help you. They are teachers in some way because you may learn from them in many different ways. Some lead by example while others coddle and hand-hold you through a situation. Either way, you are rewarded for their kinship because you become a better person for simply having known them.
Another group of
people who are easy to identify are those who have come to hinder or harm
you. They may have hidden agendas or
operate openly with no regard for your well-being. Not every person willingly hinders your
growth, but it is important to be wise enough that you can identify whether a
person’s actions are self-serving and done with no reflection on how negatively
received actions will weaken a friendship.
In many cases, we consider these people as needy, selfish, or “dramatic”. Although they may provide great entertainment
value in some forums, these same people can be considered draining or even toxic to some
relationships.