In recent months, my posts have
taken on a theme of “matters of the heart” as many readers have decided to send
me personal emails asking for my advice.
After offering my vantage point, I then, share the advice minus the
initial request with you; my forum. I am
flattered to be considered trustworthy enough to confide in by so many. Now, if
I can just figure out how Dr. Phil got his own TV show… LOL.
In essence, a hollow victory is
not a victory at all. But, reaching the FINISH LINE (or the end of a situation) allows you to start over with a new energy. After discovering
an infidelity during a relationship it is hard to learn to trust again. Explanations and excuses seem to be just as
abundant as doubt and confusion. Did I
do something wrong? Am I not
enough? Why her/him? What does she/he have/do that I don’t?
Clearly, the only way to overcome
the awkwardness of a situation like this is to simply end the affair or begin again - from the beginning... Yes, in order to build the trust needed for a
solid foundation, it may take starting over.
Go out on “first dates”, talk openly about your desires, and fall in
love all over again. It will not be easy
to continue with your previous relationship because something is flawed, so
wipe the slate clean and begin anew with little or no reference to the past.